By Rob Judge (Guest Writer)
Today I want to know, “How do you make your move on a girl?” I know how I make mine, but it wasn’t always obvious. It may sound ridiculous, but there was time when making a move felt like disarming a ticking time bomb—one wrong move and ka-pow! I was always afraid I’d detonate a girl’s temper and the entire interaction would blow up in my face.
While that attitude didn’t win me any girlfriends or lovers, it did teach me this: successfully making a move on a girl is a lot like working with ticking explosives. Let me explain…
If you’re anything like I was, you probably know you should make a move, but you talk yourself out of it. You wait, you hesitate, you procrastinate, and then you find yourself in the friend zone or with a girl who’s no longer interested. Later you kick yourself, “If I’d just made my move, I know I could’ve had her!” Then you meet a new girl and repeat the same mistakes with her. (Don’t worry; I know firsthand how viciously frustrating this cycle can be!)
Though, simply knowing that you should make a move is not enough. When you’re convincing yourself NOT to do something, you may be your own worst enemy—but you’re also your best negotiator. You know exactly how to convince yourself NOT to do something, and so you’ll keep doing what you’ve always done…unless you have an outside force acting on you to change.
To get over your sexual anxiety, you cannot trust yourself to “just do it”—you have to force yourself to do it. You have to bind yourself to the decision that, “I like this girl and I’m going to make a move on her—whether it feels comfortable or not.” Can you accept that? Are you ready to enjoy a life filled with passionate interactions with the women you’re attracted to?
If so, I introduce you to…
The Ticking Time Bomb of Sexual Ecstasy!
The steps are very simple, and forcing yourself to follow the steps is even simpler. Essentially, you set up a date with a girl—ideally pick a place close to where you live. Then, you leave some “time bomb” in your house or apartment that requires you return within 1 to 2 hours of meeting your date.
Make sure your time bomb is something serious—potentially even something that could cause “damage” if you leave it unattended after 1 to 2 hours. Here are some suggestions:
1.) Give your dog way too much water so you will absolutely need take it for a walk within an hour or so (if you’re gone for too long, the dog will pee all over your place)
2.) Prepare a meal or snack that requires you place it in a hot oven for an hour (if you’re gone for too long, the house might burn down)
3.) Set all your alarm clocks (or even your burglar alarm) to go off (if you don’t return, your neighbors will call the cops)
You get the drift. Get creative with your “ticking time bomb”—just make sure it’s not some wimpy excuse that you can easily ignore and continue to spend long hours with her, without inviting her back to your place. Personally, my favorite “time bombs” are ones that involve an activity you and her can enjoy together (like a meal you cooked)… so bonus points if you can keep your time bomb as “romantic” as possible.
This is a very simple tip, but one that most guys need to implement to achieve the love life they desire. If I had to cite the two biggest improvements to my game, they’d be: 1.) getting over my approach anxiety, and 2.) getting over my sexual escalation anxiety. Unfortunately, it’s easier for most guys to get over their approach anxiety than their sexual anxiety. Simply asking for a female opinion is a lot more comfortable than asking a girl to come home with you.
However, I promise you that if you can get over this fear of sexual escalation, you can multiply the number of girls you attract by a factor beyond your wildest imagination. While this little tidbit covers how to ask a girl to come home with you, my book “The 4 Elements of Game” covers every aspect of the interaction—from opening to making her your girlfriend, and everything in between. If you want an elite knowledge of attraction and dating that will put you in a position to meet, attract, seduce, and date your dream girl, check out this page: The 4 Elements of Game